The simple phrase, Turn your negatives into positives, is advice most of us have heard
many times, and for good reason. It’s excellent advice to use toward any goal
or aspect of your life––painting, writing, snowplowing, self-esteem stuff,
marriage, or parenthood.
For instance, when you drop a brush slathered in the
darkest paint on your palette (think burnt umber, a deep brown), and it lands
on a still wet cerulean blue canvas, don’t panic. Just tell yourself, Now I know exactly where my tall tree will
be.
In another direction, if you think you’re coming up
shy meeting your writing goals, try this out––I’m so glad I didn’t manage to
write a single sentence today, because it’s good to let yesterday’s work simmer
in my brain before I go further. I’m grateful that I’ve been blessed with
willpower.
Find something good to say no matter the situation,
even when you glimpse a side view of yourself in a mirror. Handle it like this:
“Oh good. My stomach finally sticks out further than my rear does. My butt doesn’t
look so big anymore.”
Parenting and marriage are other areas of life that little
negatives like to sneak into. If they do, try these on for size:
Oh
great, my kids won’t get out of bed for school. Those sweet little darlings
have given me the task of pulling the blankets off of them and screaming into
their ears. It’s nice to feel needed.
Oh
look, hubby left his soda cans and popcorn bowls on the coffee table again. I
thought I’d have to wake up to an empty house today, but he’s managed to fill
it quite well.
Sometimes you just have to fake it until you make
it. Life hits us with boring, difficult, or time-sucking obligations. You might
simply wake up in a crappy mood for no reason at all, and how do you get
anything done like that?
That’s when you need to trick yourself. Stroke your
imagination with affirmative statements until you believe them. Trust me––it
works.
If you’re at a grueling get-together, smile and act
like you’re having a great time. Fake it to the max. After a while, you’ll
enjoy faking it so much that your mood will actually shift and you won’t be
faking anymore.
So, on those days that you wake up and it looks like
a perfect day to go sailing, shopping, or riding––anything to take you away
from your duties––talk to yourself: “What a wonderful day to get to work. To
sweat and ache. I’m so blessed.” Then remember, fake it until you make it.
Happy day!